Saying Yes - Communication for Loving and Peaceful Relationships -
Psychotherapy for bad relationships
Karma Yoga and the Importance of Saying Yes
How often do you say YES or
NO?
Do you have a healthy relationship with your family, partner and children? How many times have you said YES or NO to them recently? Selfish people say No whilst Loving people say Yes. Saying Yes is a form of psychotherapy for bad relationships
Children constantly are told, “No, No, No”. I saw a child with his mother in a supermarket. He asked for something, and his mother just said No without any explanation. The child felt really hurt. He couldn't understand why his mother was saying No. In the end he got smacked and was dragged away crying. The mother should have just said Yes and there would be smiles and happiness.
Saying Yes is the path of Loving. Why hurt somebody by saying NO unnecessarily, when you can say YES and make someone Happy? The more you say Yes, the Love flows. The more you say No, the more you brake the flow of Love and communication. If you start saying Yes to your children, they will also return the Love by saying Yes to your requests. Harmony and mutual understanding will occur, instead of a conflict of ego.
Saying Yes is healthy for a child's development and proof of Love. This is better than saying No, punishing the child, making him/her feel guilty and accusing them of being selfish.
Saying Yes may require you to be selfless. It is a form of self transcending action, like feeding the poor. For an adult relationship to work there also needs to be a full Yes from both parties. One single No call kill a relationship. It is okay to say No in a joking or teasing way that creates a smile, but generally there should be a full Yes to the other person, Yes to who they are, Yes to their needs, Yes to their desires and Yes to their fantasies. Saying Yes is proof of Love. You should be able to say Yes in all situations of life. However if someone says No to you, you must accept it. You can’t try and control over people. Everyone has freedom say either say Yes or No.
Some children are a lot of hard work for their parents. It means they require more Love, more than what the parents are willing to give. When I was 16 I went on holiday. There was one problem child in my family that I had look after. All the parents ever did was say “No!” to that child and they never had any time for her. When I was looking after her, she kept on saying, “can I do this, can I do that?” Even though it was a hassle I would say Yes. She would push me to the limit by asking stuff like, “can we go back and stroke those cats?”. I just said Yes. She was testing me and was trying to find the point where I would tell her off and say no, but I didn't. I just let her do what she wanted whilst protecting her against anything dangerous or harmful. Just somebody saying Yes to her once in a while was all she needed to be happy. In the end she fell in love with me and said, “I Love you”. Saying Yes to her helped heal her and remove a lot of blocks. Saying yes is a form of psychotherapy for bad relationships. After someone saying Yes to her there was an improvement in her behaviour..
In some rare instances a No might be necessary, if the request violates any boundaries or rules of Love. If that's the case then the absolute reason must be explained clearly so the child understands. Generally to Love means saying Yes. When you are projecting your Love to other people, you are giving them a complete Yes. Yes to their healing and Yes to their soul.
