Creating a Bond with your Mother -
Mother and Child Relationship Bonding
The importance of overcoming lack of mother and child bonding
It is important to have a very strong bond with your own mother. This is for your well-being. You must have a very strong connection on the heart and soul level. This is the foundation for happiness in your life and relationships. Whatever problems you have, your mother has the capacity to take your pain and give you peace. You came into this world (with all its illusions) through your mother, so she is the number one person to take your illusions. Your mother is the doorway to God and the way to find peace, by developing a strong bond and deep connection to your mother.
When you have a problem you can connect to your Mother- to her holy womb, where there are no problems, just divine peace. Your happiness and peace in life may be proportionate to the bond you have with your Mother. The main cause of all root causes of anxiety and depression maybe lack of bonding with your Mother, especially when you were a child. A strong loving bond is like divine nectar to a child. The lack of love that anxiety people feel may be the lack of essential motherly Love.
Your Mother is divine
It does not matter who you mother is, how crazy, difficult or unloving she may appear to be- God is still there. She is divine. She's your channel to God. Even if she has passed away or is no longer here- you can still connect to her on the soul level. To create a bond you do not even have to speak to her or be in her physical presence.
You can not think negatively on your mother, even if you feel she deserves it. Or you may feel so much hurt that it is impossible to Love your mother. At first you do not have to deal with your mother on a personal level, just love and connect to her on the soul level.
When I was a little baby my mother said that she could not relate to me and that I was not like her. She said that she often wondered if she had picked up the right baby from the hospital. She could not produce any breast milk for me. The flow of love for a baby may be proportionate to the flow of milk. The breasts are like two secondary chakras of anahta (heart) chakra. Absence of milk may mean absence of flowing love. If there is an abundance of love toward partner and baby then a woman can produce milk in abundance. Later on in life I became addicted to cows milk as a substitute for missing female love whilst growing up. I used to drink about 4 pints of milk a day when I was at school. Milk is equal to female Love.
Also when I was a baby my Mother would leave me for large periods of time with my Grandmother and child minder. I developed more of a bond with my Grandmother than my real Mother. This is a big problem in todays society with modern career woman. Traditionally the man was always the sole provider of food and shelter, whilst the child was in the important stages on bonding with his or her Mother.
The divine nector of Motherly Love
Sometimes you may find friends or family members who may partially substitute your missing female love. True female Love is really kind, understanding, generous, sweet, beautiful and caring. I once stayed in a house with a family, and I wished I could have been born into that family, how happy, nourishing, complete and peaceful my life would be as a child in that family. My life would be normal and happy.
Motherly Love is not indifferent to the child. It really cares how the child feels. For instance if the child is unhappy or upset then the mother may have sleepless nights until she knows the child is happy. A full love tank of vital motherly love during childhood years sets the stage for a healthy, secure, peaceful, happy and loving life and relationships. It sets the stage for being anxiety free.
The wings of motherly love bring peace and protection for a child. The mother created and produced you in her womb, so she is first person to take care of you. She is the first healer before God. Sometimes an advanced spiritual person may be capable of providing or partially substituting this kind of love for you, but if he can not help you then he may throw you to God, and God may keep on throwing you back to him. So in the end he teaches you connect to your own Mother and the importance of this. It is highly important in spirituality. Even for Jesus the bond with his mother was important. He really loved his mother. When he was on the cross he was thinking on her and she was taking his pain. Whenever you need peace the mother takes your pain.
How to connect to and heal the bond with your Mother
All you have to do is spend at least 15 minutes a day of meditation time to connect to your Mother. During these 15 minters try and think about the good times you had with her or when you felt safe and happy- whatever brings the love feelings. The main thing is to open your heart and send your love and energy. First humbly ask God to bestow upon you and your Mother his supreme grace, to heal your bond and allow you to enter her womb. You can picture you Mother in your minds eye, whilst focussing on your heart (Anahata) chakra and your crown chakra. Your Sahasrara chakra (crown chakra) on top of your head opens for God's healing love and bliss and you can send this love and blessings to your Mother through your heart feelings to bless and heal her. You may also put your right hand out in front of you in a gesture of blessing and the energy will flow from arm and hand onto your Mother. If you have a personal mantra you can repeat this, and if you have a personal yantra you can place this over the image of your mother in your minds eye. This way you are allowing yourself to become a vessle of God's supreme grace, sending super love, healing energy and blessings to your Mother.
After spending some time connecting to your mother you will enter into her womb. You will dive into that ocean of peace and divine bliss where there a no problems. Your soul merges with God through your Mother- healing the bond with your Mother. You will be able to mediate for hours because you will be in so much bliss and divine peace. Do this 15 minute meditation everyday for three months and you will see the difference. After just 20 days of doing this there was a huge difference in my life and relationships. To a certain degree there is now completeness in my life. In healing the bond with your mother you are healing the bond with all women, all people and God. You are now eligible to love fully and receive love fully. Your anxiety is made well. That big block called anxiety in your life has been dissolved and instead you are experiencing bliss in its place.
The energy of this technique heals your Mother
A huge bond with you mother will develop as a result of God's grace. When I met up with my mother recently she was like a powerhouse of energy. There was huge Mother Divine energy there. The energy of this technique can heal your Mother. Normally my Mother wears black clothes and has a kind of black aura, but this time she was wearing colours and she had changed. When you are in your Mother's physical presence you can connect again to this powerful channel that you have established. This technique is a way of connecting to the real Mother, to God- through your own Mother. Creating and healing the bond with your Mother is one step to becoming enlightened.
Once your Mother has given birth to you she has fulfilled her duty. She made it possible for you to be here, so she is the number one person to be thankful to and have a bond with. You may have been the direct cause of your Mothers problems and current behaviour in previous lives. You can not think negative on your Mother or blame her, because she is also a peace of God. She is Mother Divine. By building a relationship to your Mother you are also building your relationship to Mother Divine- and to God.
If you are a Mother who wants to strengthen and heal the bond with your child then you can also do this technique for blessing your child or anybody else. The effects may be even be more powerful for really healing your children.
