How to Maintain Healthy and Loving Relationships with Problem Parents or Dysfunctional Parents?
Taking parents out for dinner/lunch
My parents have been the biggest challenge in my life so far. Our relationship has not been easy. One time we had family therapy sessions and in the end the therapist got angry because we were not getting anywhere, so he suggested that we separate and stop seeing each other. He got told off for saying that.
Instead of your parents visiting you and telling you what to do or how to live your life... and instead of you visiting them to be partially ignored or made to feel unwanted or invading... you can both meet as friends and maintain your boundaries. I have made a rule to never visit my parents, and since I live a healthy distance away from them they will rarely visit me. Instead I am maintaining a healthy and loving relationship, by taking them out for lunch or a day out occasionally. This means paying for it, so you are actually giving something. To meet somewhere or to go somewhere requires both parties to make an effort.
It is important to solve any problems that you may have with your parents, otherwise it is impossible to move forward in life. It is important to dissolve anything that is stopping you from loving them, such as resentment, hurt, blame or any type of retaliation or revenge. Although your parents may be problem people or dysfunctional, if you reject any person in your heart then it is impossible to feel Love from God and it is impossible to win the heart of your soul mate. Everything needs to solved in Love. It is important not to reject anybody, including your parents.
